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Dailymail.online accessed 22.09.17 Female climax research.

Four out of five women CAN'T reach climax through sexual intercourse alone, reveals academic study (as sex expert urges women to take matters into their own hands)
75% of females say clitoral stimulation was necessary to have an orgasm
Women have 'diverse' preferences with genital touch, location and pressure
Survey suggests there is no universal 'sex moves that work for everyone'
Men have 3 times as many orgasms with a partner than women, says Tracey Cox
The sex expert advises women to think of his penis as a 'masturbatory tool'
By CLAUDIA TANNER FOR MAILONLINE
PUBLISHED: 12:42, 21 September 2017 | UPDATED: 15:46, 21 September 2017


Four out of five women fail to reach climax through sexual intercourse alone, a new study has revealed.

The findings break the myth that most women can orgasm through intercourse.

And 75 percent of females reported that clitoral stimulation was necessary for them to have an orgasm.

US researchers also reported that women have 'a diverse set' of preferences when it comes to genital touch, location and pressure.

They note from the findings of their poll of 1,000 women aged 18 to 94 that there are no universal 'sex moves that work for everyone'.

This highlights the importance of couples having conversations about their preferences and desires, the report in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy states.

Nearly 75 percent of women surveyed said that clitoral stimulation was either necessary for them to climax during intercourse, or helped their orgasms feel better.
Nearly 75 percent of women surveyed said that clitoral stimulation was either necessary for them to climax during intercourse, or helped their orgasms feel better (stock photo)

7 IN 10 WOMEN CLIMAX MORE THAN ONCE DURING SEX

Doctors used to think that multiple orgasms were rare.

But new research proves the opposite. Seven in 10 women are able to climax numerous times with their partner.

In fact, hitting the big 'O' more than once during a steamy session is common in most relationships, a study shows.

And two per cent of British women even claim they are able to climax 20 times during their time beneath the sheets.

Celebrity sexual health couple Dr David Delvin and Dr Christine Webber quizzed 1,250 women in an online survey.

All participants were aged between 20 to 24 and were asked 13 questions about their sexual status.

Similar to the recent research, the poll found that four out of five women are unable to reach orgasm through penetration alone and require clitoral stimulation.

'The study results challenge the mistaken, but common, notion that there are universal sex moves that work for everyone,' said study author Brian Dodge, associate professor in the Indiana University School of Public Health-Bloomington.

Aiming to 'fill the gap in scientific and public understanding of sexual pleasure', the team found 18 percent could experience the big 'O' from vaginal penetration alone and nearly 75 percent said that clitoral stimulation was either necessary for them to climax during intercourse, or helped their orgasms feel better.

A damaging myth

Mail Online Sex expert Tracey Cox says that the idea most women can orgasm through intercourse is 'the biggest and most damaging myth about sex'.

'Most women don't orgasm through intercourse and only 30 per cent can do it,' she said.

'Like all sex educators, I've been harping on about this for years.

'The result is men have at least three times as many orgasms with a partner than women do.

'The rates for casual sex are even more abysmal: only four percent of women have orgasms through casual sex.'

Her advise to women to make sure they are getting satisfaction in the bedroom is to take matters into their own hands – literally.

'The single, most important thing you can do to even up the tally is to give yourself the same clitoral stimulation you use when pleasuring yourself.

'This basically involves thinking of his penis and pelvis as more of a masturbatory tool – something to rub and stimulate your clitoris with and against – than an appendage that thrusts (ineffectively, if pleasantly) in and out of your vagina.

'Sounds selfish? Sorry to be blunt but who cares? He won't – he'll end up climaxing one way or another, believe me! And for once in your life, you might too.



Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4906240/One-five-women-climax-sexual-intercourse.html#ixzz4tNdOaZGl





Women 'more likely to lose interest in sex than men'. From daily mail.com/ health accessed 13.09.17

Relationships of longer than a year were a factor in women's lack of interest in sex
Women are more than twice as likely as men to lack interest in sex when living with a partner, a study of British sexual attitudes suggests.
It found that while men and women lost passion with age, women were often left cold by longer relationships.
Overall, poor health and a lack of emotional closeness affected both men's and women's desire for sex.
The findings are based on the experiences of nearly 5,000 men and 6,700 women, published in BMJ Open.
The UK researchers said problems of sexual desire should be treated by looking at the whole person, rather than simply resorting to drugs.

'Pain and misery'
Relate sex therapist Ammanda Major said losing interest in sex wasn't necessarily abnormal, and there were many different reasons why men's and women's needs changed.
"For some, it is a natural and normal place to be, but for others it causes pain and misery," she said.
In total, 15% of men and 34% of women surveyed said they had lost interest in sex for three months or more in the previous year.
For men, this lack of interest was highest at the ages of 35-44 while for women it peaked between 55 and 64.
But the researchers, from the University of Southampton and University College London, said there was no evidence that the menopause was a factor for women.
However, they did find that having young children at home was a particular turn-off for women.
Poor physical and mental health, poor communication and a lack of emotional connection during sex were the main reasons why men and women lost interest.


Five tips to rekindling interest in sex
Start talking about the issue early on rather than leaving it to fester - ignoring it can lead to other problems and make you feel resentful. If that doesn't work, confront the reason why you don't want to talk about it
Explore other forms of intimacy such as holding hands, talking gently to each other, cuddling and stroking rather than full-on sex
Feeling as if you are not being heard is a barrier to sex - so make your partner feel respected and important
Get some additional support by going to see a sex therapist, relationship counsellor or your GP
Relax - many relationships work very well when they are non-sexual, if it's an outcome that is reached jointly

In the National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles in Britain, those who found it "always easy to talk about sex" with their partner were less likely to say they lacked interest.
However, those whose partner had had sexual difficulties, and those who were less happy in their relationship, were more likely to say they had lost interest in sex at some stage, the researchers said.
Among women, the study found that "not sharing the same level of sexual interest with a partner, and not sharing the same sexual likes and dislikes" were also a factor in loss of interest in sex.

Cynthia Graham, professor of sexual and reproductive health at the University of Southampton, said the findings increased understanding of what lay behind men and women's lack of interest in sex and how to treat it.
"This highlights the need to assess and - if necessary - treat sexual desire problems in a holistic and relationship-specific, as well as gender-specific way."
She added that this was a problem that could not be fixed by a pill alone.
"It is important to look beyond anti-depressives," Prof Graham said.




Porn addiction article By ABIGAIL MILLER FOR DAILYMAIL.COM on 04.08.2017

Boys who start watching pornography at a young age are more likely to grow into misogynistic men who want power over women, a new study claims.
Researchers at at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln found a clear link between the age at which a boy is first exposed to porn and his likelihood to display sexist attitudes later in life.
However, they also found that men who are exposed later in life are more likely to be sexually promiscuous.
'The goal of our study was to examine how age of first exposure to pornography, and the nature of said first exposure, predicts conformity to two masculine norms,' explained Alyssa Bischmann, a doctoral student at the university who presented the research.
The two norms are sexually promiscuous behavior - or the likelihood of being a playboy - and the desire for power over women, she explained.

The younger a boy starts watching pornography the more likely it is that he will have a misogynistic view of women, a new study claims (stock image)
Bischmann and her colleagues surveyed 330 undergraduate men, age 17 to 54 years old, at a large Midwestern university. Participants were 85 percent white and primarily heterosexual (93 percent).
Each man was asked about his first exposure to pornography - specifically, what age they were when it happened and whether it was intentional, accidental or forced.
Participants were then asked to respond to a series of 46 questions designed to measure the two masculine norms.
Among the group, the average age of first exposure was 13.37 years old. with the youngest exposure as early as five and the latest older than 26.


Scientists studied 20,000 men, analyzing how strongly they conformed to 11 typical ideas of masculinity.

They found that men who wanted power over women and had a 'playboy attitude', were significantly more depressed than others.

Those men were also less likely to seek mental health treatment.

The American Psychological Association says the findings should act as a warning to dispel the 'snowflake' reputation afforded men's mental health treatment.

Each study focused on the relationship between mental health and 11 norms generally considered to reflect society's expectations of traditional masculinity.

These were:

desire to win
need for emotional control
risk-taking
violence
dominance
playboy (sexual promiscuity)
primacy of work (importance placed on one's job)
power over women
disdain for homosexuality
pursuit of status
After recording each man's social attitudes, they looked at their mental health, and whether they have sought treatment.

The biggest drivers for poor mental health were: a playboy attitude, insistence on being self-reliant, and wanting power over women.

The one factor that did not detrimentally affect mental health was 'primacy of work' - prioritizing one's job.

Most of the men surveyed said their first time viewing porn was accidental at 43.5 percent.
Fewer men said their first exposure was intentional, at 33.4 percent, and 17.2 percent said it was forced upon them. Six percent did not indicate the nature of the exposure.
Researchers then found a significant association between age of first exposure and adherence to the two masculine norms, with different associations for each.
'We found that the younger a man was when he first viewed pornography, the more likely he was to want power over women,' Bischmann said.
'The older a man was when he first viewed pornography, the more likely he would want to engage in playboy behavior.'
This finding was surprising, according to co-author Chrissy Richardson, MA, also from the University of Nebraska, Lincoln, because the researchers had expected both norms to be higher with a lower first age of exposure.
'The most interesting finding from this study was that older age at first exposure predicted greater adherence to the playboy masculine norms,' Richardson explained.
'That finding has sparked many more questions and potential research ideas because it was so unexpected based on what we know about gender role socialization and media exposure.'
Bischmann said more research needs to be done, and explained that she suspects that the findings may be related to unexamined variables.
For example, a participant's level of religion, sexual performance anxiety, negative sexual experiences or whether their first exposure experience was positive or negative could play a more significant role than age.
It also did not matter how the participants were exposed - the researchers found no significant association between the nature of the exposure and attitudes.
'We were surprised that the type of exposure did not affect whether someone wanted power over women or to engage in playboy behaviors. We had expected that intentional, accidental or forced experiences would have differing outcomes,' said Bischmann.
The findings, which were presented at the 125th Annual Convention of the American Psychological Association provide confirmed existing evidence that pornography viewing has a real impact on heterosexual men, especially with regard to their views about sex roles, according to Richardson.
Knowing more about the relationship between men's pornography use and beliefs about women might assist sexual assault prevention efforts, especially among young boys who may have been exposed to pornography at an early age.
This information could also inform the treatment of various emotional and social issues experienced by young heterosexual men who view pornography, she said.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4757558/Young-boys-watch-porn-likely-sexist.html#ixzz4oo2ph7dD
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From daily mail online 04.08.2016



Your Vagina Is Ageing: A Timeline Of Changes Down There, From Your 30s To Your 60s

Woman &home.com by Kelly Allen on Friday, 17 June 2017

It's not just your face that can give your age away, your vagina is getting older too. While you might pore over the lines and wrinkles on your forehead in the mirror every morning, it's less likely you are looking 'down there'. However, just like the rest of your body, it's going through the ageing process. How does a normal vagina age?

Every woman and every vagina is different, and it's completely understandable to wonder, 'is my vagina normal?'. But a healthy vagina will continue to change as we go through life - this is totally normal. Key life transitions such as pregnancy and menopause will have an effect on your genitals, just as they do on the rest of your body. Read on to discover how a normal vagina changes with age...

In your 30s

If you are on the pill, or have taken it previously, your vagina may become drier in your thirties - experts believe that because the pill stops ovulation, you might not produce as much natural lubrication at this time of the month.
Stephanie S Fabuion, author of Mayo Clinic- The Menopause Solution says, "We think some women may get more vulvar dryness with birth control pills because the pills are blocking male sex hormones called androgens, and the vulva has androgen receptors." However, she does add that this varies from woman to woman.

Pregnancy and childbirth can also have a massive impact on your vagina, as well as your vulva.

The uterus swells to watermelon proportions during pregnancy - some women even get varicose veins on their genitals thanks to this increase in weight.

Hormones produced when you are expecting can also change the colour of your vulva, making it darker.

Thankfully, the vagina is an extremely resilient part of your body and, thanks to its elasticity and blood supply, a healthy vagina tends to return to normal within six weeks of childbirth.

However, doctors recommend performing pelvic floor exercises to help things since the force applied to our pelvic muscles during labour can cause damage. Doing regular Kegels when expecting will help to prevent bladder leakage and can help make sex feel more like before.


In your 40s

Years of defuzzing may start to take their toll now - you might notice skin or pigment changes as a result of waxing or shaving down there. Just like the hair on your head, your pubic hair will also start to thin in your forties. This is thought to be down to declining oestrogen.
Aside from pregnancy-related changes, a healthy vagina will remain largely unchanged until you reach your forties. However, during this decade, your hormone levels begin to decline as perimenopause beckons. At this point, you may start to notice reductions in elasticity, thinning vaginal walls and the beginnings of vaginal dryness, which can result in itching, burning and redness.


In your 50s

Most women go through the menopause between the ages of 50 and 52 - this will have an enormous impact on a normal vagina.

Depleted oestrogen levels result in thinner, less elastic and drier vulvular tissue due to loss of fat and collagen. This can cause irritation during sex - compared by some people to using sandpaper or feeling like you need to go to the toilet.

As hormone levels drop, your body stops making certain bacteria - this will changes the pH level of a normal vagina, making it more acidic. In the absence of this good bacteria, you will be more prone to infections like urinary tract infections and bacterial vaginosis, as well as STIs.



In your 60s and beyond

Whilst other symptoms of the menopause will gradually tail off, changes to your vagina will continue on into your 60s. By the age of 60, nearly 60 per cent of women experience problems with vaginal dryness.

This can cause problems for your sex life. Faubion explains: "When sex hurts for women after menopause, there's this involuntary reaction. You anticipate having painful sex, and then your pelvic floor muscles spasm to protect you. Your brain is saying, 'This is going to hurt'."

What can you do to help your vagina as it ages?

If you have concerns about your vagina or feel physically uncomfortable, it's important to seek medical attention, whatever your age. However, remember that a healthy vagina will still undergo changes. Try these self-help tips to keep yours feeling fresh...
1. Doing Kegels can help to keep symptoms at bay. Contract your pelvic floor muscles (the ones you squeeze to stop the flow of urine when you go to the toilet) for ten seconds, relax, and repeat 20 times, three times a day.

2. Ditch your office chair - instead, sit on a Swiss ball for 15 minutes a day. This forces
the muscles of your pelvic floor to contract - and you won't need to do a single
squeeze.

3. If your problems revolve around dryness during sex then a lubricant can make things easier - just remember not to use oil-based lubricants with condoms.


Read more at http://www.womanandhome.com/diet-and-health/539881/your-vagina-is-ageing-a-timeline-of-changes-down-there




News. The NHS are encouraging all men to masturbate.

The NHS is encouraging men to masturbate after a study concluded ejaculating at least 21 times a month could reduce their risk of developing the most common form of cancer.

The peer-reviewed findings, published in the journal European Urology, were the result of researchers from Harvard and Boston medical schools and universities studying 31,925 healthy men, who completed a questionnaire about their ejaculation frequency back in 1992.

These same men, who were aged 20-to-29, 40-to-49, were monitored until 2010 and during that time 3,839 of them were diagnosed with prostate cancer.

The findings, being widely reported this week, compare the 21-timers with men who ejaculate just four-to-seven times every four weeks.


The researchers found that the risk of prostate cancer in men aged between 20 and 29 and 40 and 49 was significantly reduced if they ejaculated at least 21 times a month, whether through sex or masturbation.

This was compared with men who ejaculated just four-to-seven times a month. NHS says masturbation can help ward off cancer in men
By WMN_PGoodwin | Posted: July 08, 2017



Health bosses are urging men to practice self love

The NHS is encouraging men to masturbate after a study concluded ejaculating at least 21 times a month could reduce their risk of developing the most common form of cancer.

The peer-reviewed findings, published in the journal European Urology, were the result of researchers from Harvard and Boston medical schools and universities studying 31,925 healthy men, who completed a questionnaire about their ejaculation frequency back in 1992.

These same men, who were aged 20-to-29, 40-to-49, were monitored until 2010 and during that time 3,839 of them were diagnosed with prostate cancer.

The findings, being widely reported this week, compare the 21-timers with men who ejaculate just four-to-seven times every four weeks.


The researchers found that the risk of prostate cancer in men aged between 20 and 29 and 40 and 49 was significantly reduced if they ejaculated at least 21 times a month, whether through sex or masturbation.

This was compared with men who ejaculated just four-to-seven times a month.


The NHS says prostate cancer is the most common cancer in men in the UK, with over 40,000 new cases diagnosed every year.

However, the researchers are not speculating on the reasons why ejaculating reduces the risk of prostate cancer. It is being reported that previous research hints at the possibility that ejaculation contributes to getting rid of cancer-causing elements and infections from the gland.

Inflammation is a known cause of cancer, and ejaculation may help to ease this.

They wrote: "We found that men reporting higher compared to lower ejaculatory frequency in adulthood were less likely to be subsequently diagnosed with prostate cancer."

The study has been featured on the NHS website, which notes a range of other factors - such as genetics, lifestyle, number of children, diet, nature of sexual activity and education - may also contribute to prostate cancer risk.

However the NHS website also says: "Despite any lurid tales you may have heard growing up, masturbation is entirely safe.

"So if you want to do it as a preventative method, then it wouldn't pose any health risks."

Initial signs of prostate cancer usually involve problems with urination, such as needing to urinate more frequently, due to the prostate getting larger. While prostate enlargement can occur as men grow older, it is important to check symptoms like these with your GP.

Prostate cancer facts
From the NHS website

Prostate cancer is the most common cancer in men in the UK, with over 40,000 new cases diagnosed every year.
It usually develops slowly, so there may be no signs you have it for many years.
Symptoms often only become apparent when the prostate is large enough to affect the urethra (the tube that carries urine from the bladder to the penis).When this happens, men may notice things like an increased need to urinate, straining while urinating and a feeling that your bladder has not fully emptied.T
These symptoms shouldn't be ignored, but they do not mean you definitely have prostate cancer. It is more likely that they are caused by something else, such as benign prostatic hyperplasia (also known as BPH or prostate enlargement).

Taken from devonlive.com 08.07.17




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