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Majority of over-65s would like more sex, survey finds 14 February 2018
From : dailymail online Health accessed 14.02.18

Older people are often assumed to want amiable companionship in later life rather than passion-fuelled romance.
But a survey of 2,002 older Britons suggests 52% of over-65s feel they do not have enough sex, and nearly a third are happy to have sex on a first date.
It also found one in 10 over-75s have had multiple sexual partners since turning 65.
The charity Independent Age said its survey showed age was "no barrier to having a sex life".
'Sex is better when you're 80'
The taboo of sex in care homes for older people
'You should enjoy life'

Dennis Allen, from Somerset, has not let age stand in the way of his and his wife's sex life.
The 84-year-old married Pauline, 85, his fourth wife, in 2004.
He said the pair were on average sexually active twice a week.
"If you're up for it, you should enjoy life," he said.
"You never know when you're going to be past your sell-by date."
Dennis said both he and Pauline, 85, had made sure to exercise and look after themselves, in part so they remained attractive to each other.
He said: "Let's put it frankly, if you were a young lady and you saw your husband was sitting there with a great big beer belly, smoking a fag out of his mouth, what would would you think? Would you fancy him?
"My wife has always looked very attractive. She won't go out of the door unless she looks the part, and she won't let me go out of the door unless I look the part."
The survey also found:
Just one in six people aged 80 and over said they felt they had enough sex
The same proportion of over-65s said one of the only reasons they would stop having sex would be a lack of opportunity
One in four over-65s in a relationship that started in the past 10 years said they had met online
Lucy Harmer, director of services at Independent Age, said a lot of older people were more sexually active than many people might think.
She told the BBC: "The generation that is reaching 65 and older now is the baby boomers. I don't think anyone has ever told them they should be stopping.
"People of that generation have a slightly different approach to sex, maybe, than the 80 to 85-year-olds did."
'Little discussion of sex lives'
The poll also highlighted that about one in 11 over-65s said they did not take any precautions against sexually transmitted infections when they started having sex with a new partner.
The Terrence Higgins Trust said some older people who were newly single or sexually active later in life had little knowledge about preventing STIs.
Debbie Laycock, head of policy and parliamentary affairs at the sexual health charity, said: "There is still very little discussion of the sex lives of older people, with the vast majority of conversations, education and sexual health campaigns focusing on young people.
"This has created the assumption that sexual health and STIs are only issues for the young - and that needs to change."






Is YOUR bedroom ruining your sex life? How old photos, neutral decor and messy drawers can put a dampener on your libido
Sexologist and relationship therapist Jessica O'Reilly spoke to My Domaine
Advises banishing photos of children and anyone you've fallen out with
Says bedside drawer should be clear and full of treats to get you in the mood
Neutral decor lacks pops of colour you need to quicken the emotions
By Siofra Brennan For Mailonline
PUBLISHED: 12:48, 5 February 2018 | UPDATED: 13:20, 5 February 2018

If your love life seems to have run out of steam lately, you might be considering a lingerie shopping trip and some early nights to reignite the spark.

But according to sexologist and relationship therapist Jessica O'Reilly, rethinking your bedroom decor could be the key to spicing things up between the sheets.

According to Jessica 'the objects, scents, textures, and sounds in your bedroom all subtly influence intimacy' My Domaine reports.

So if you want to ensure the passion in your relationship doesn't wane, you might want to rethink the photos you hang on the wall and having your phone in the bedroom, as well as keeping your decor neutral, no matter how on-trend grey and white may be.

Read on to find out the decor disasters you need to tackle if you've found your libido waning.

CLUTTERED DRAWERS

A messy environment has been shown to increase the level of the stress hormone cortisol, which can lead to issues such as anxiety - not very conducive to boosting libido.

If your bedroom is cluttered, Jessica suggests the first place to start with is the bedside drawer.

Rather than having it packed with random items, to-do lists and receipts she suggests stocking it up with mints, lubricant and any other items you might need that are conducive to getting into a romantic mood.

NEUTRAL DECOR

While peaceful shades of white and grey might feel very calming, as well as being on trend, a lack of colour could leave you feeling uninspired.

Whether it's a simple throw pillow or lingerie draped over the bedpost, red has the capacity to ignite passion as it's associated with sexual activity.

It can also boost energy, quicken the heart rate and intensify emotional responses.

While neutral decor may be fashionable, you should add a splash of colour such as red to quicken emotional responses

LACK OF PRIVACY

If you're a parent, the fear of your children walking in at any moment hardly creates the most relaxing atmosphere. You could consider a lock on the door, but there are other ways to create a sense of privacy such as clever use of sound.

Jessica recommends a white noise machine to block out intrusive sounds and curating a special playlist to promote intimacy, as listening to your favourite music can create emotional reactions similar to eating fine food or even taking mood-enhancing drugs.

'Music can activate the reward and motivations system of the brain resulting in chemical reactions including dopamine spikes,' she explained.

Fear of being interrupted is not conducive to creating a relaxing atmosphere in the bedroom

TECH INTERFERENCE

According to Jessica, even if you're not looking at your phone its very presence in the bedroom can be a distraction.

She advises keeping devices out of the bedroom completely and if you live in a multi-storey home, limiting them to the ground floor so they don't creep upstairs and into the bedroom.

Even keeping your phone on the bedside table can be a distraction, so banish tech from the bedroom

NEGATIVE MEMORIES

While it's nice to have photos on display around the house, the bedroom isn't necessarily the best spot for them.

If you have a family photo in the bedroom for instance, but you're experiencing tension with a sibling or have had a falling out with a friend then you're bringing this negative energy into the bedroom.

Even snaps of your parents or children might be a bad idea as they can 'detract from sensuality and eroticism'.

UNPLEASANT SMELLS

Scent plays a huge part in human attraction and the right aroma can boost arousal an blood flow.

Your first step should be to eliminate all negative smells such as overflowing laundry baskets, old shoes lurking under the bed and cupboards that need airing.

Then replace unpleasant aromas with those that will set the mood such as notes of peppermint, lavender and liquorice.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-5353123/Is-bedroom-ruining-sex-life.html#ixzz56F6hXaYX
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Cycling does not harm men's sexual health
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Cycling does not negatively affect men's sexual health or urinary function, a study has found.
Researchers compared cyclists with runners and swimmers and found their sexual and urinary health was comparable.
The findings contrasted with previous studies that suggested cycling could negatively affect men's sexual function, the study's authors said.
They said the benefits to cycling "far outweigh the risks".
Cycling to work 'halves cancer risk'
'Tremendous benefits'
Some 2,774 cyclists from the UK, US Canada, Australia and New Zealand were surveyed, along with 539 swimmers and 789 runners, using a range of questionnaires that measured sexual health and urinary function.
Sexual health and urinary function were comparable in all three groups, researchers said, although some cyclists were more prone to urethral strictures - a narrowing of the urethra.
There was also no statistically significant difference between high intensity cyclists - those who have cycled for more than two years more than three times per week and averaging more than 25 miles per day - and recreational cyclists.
Authors of the study, published in the Journal of Urology, said their findings contradicted previous research that suggested cycling negatively affected erectile function.
These studies lacked comparison groups and were limited by small sample sizes, they said.
"Cycling provides tremendous cardiovascular benefits and is low impact on joints," lead investigator Benjamin Breyer, from the University of California-San Francisco's urology department, said.
"The health benefits enjoyed by cyclists who ride safely will far out weight health risks."
The cyclists did have statistically significant higher odds of genital numbness, the study found.
But by standing more than 20% of the time while cycling the odds of this were significantly reduced, the research found.
The researchers said in future work they would look more closely at those who had reported numbness to see if this was a predictor for future problems.
Daily mail online 12.01.18 http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-42651568



Dailymail.online accessed 22.09.17 Female climax research.

Four out of five women CAN'T reach climax through sexual intercourse alone, reveals academic study (as sex expert urges women to take matters into their own hands)
75% of females say clitoral stimulation was necessary to have an orgasm
Women have 'diverse' preferences with genital touch, location and pressure
Survey suggests there is no universal 'sex moves that work for everyone'
Men have 3 times as many orgasms with a partner than women, says Tracey Cox
The sex expert advises women to think of his penis as a 'masturbatory tool'
By CLAUDIA TANNER FOR MAILONLINE
PUBLISHED: 12:42, 21 September 2017 | UPDATED: 15:46, 21 September 2017


Four out of five women fail to reach climax through sexual intercourse alone, a new study has revealed.

The findings break the myth that most women can orgasm through intercourse.

And 75 percent of females reported that clitoral stimulation was necessary for them to have an orgasm.

US researchers also reported that women have 'a diverse set' of preferences when it comes to genital touch, location and pressure.

They note from the findings of their poll of 1,000 women aged 18 to 94 that there are no universal 'sex moves that work for everyone'.

This highlights the importance of couples having conversations about their preferences and desires, the report in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy states.

Nearly 75 percent of women surveyed said that clitoral stimulation was either necessary for them to climax during intercourse, or helped their orgasms feel better.
Nearly 75 percent of women surveyed said that clitoral stimulation was either necessary for them to climax during intercourse, or helped their orgasms feel better (stock photo)

7 IN 10 WOMEN CLIMAX MORE THAN ONCE DURING SEX

Doctors used to think that multiple orgasms were rare.

But new research proves the opposite. Seven in 10 women are able to climax numerous times with their partner.

In fact, hitting the big 'O' more than once during a steamy session is common in most relationships, a study shows.

And two per cent of British women even claim they are able to climax 20 times during their time beneath the sheets.

Celebrity sexual health couple Dr David Delvin and Dr Christine Webber quizzed 1,250 women in an online survey.

All participants were aged between 20 to 24 and were asked 13 questions about their sexual status.

Similar to the recent research, the poll found that four out of five women are unable to reach orgasm through penetration alone and require clitoral stimulation.

'The study results challenge the mistaken, but common, notion that there are universal sex moves that work for everyone,' said study author Brian Dodge, associate professor in the Indiana University School of Public Health-Bloomington.

Aiming to 'fill the gap in scientific and public understanding of sexual pleasure', the team found 18 percent could experience the big 'O' from vaginal penetration alone and nearly 75 percent said that clitoral stimulation was either necessary for them to climax during intercourse, or helped their orgasms feel better.

A damaging myth

Mail Online Sex expert Tracey Cox says that the idea most women can orgasm through intercourse is 'the biggest and most damaging myth about sex'.

'Most women don't orgasm through intercourse and only 30 per cent can do it,' she said.

'Like all sex educators, I've been harping on about this for years.

'The result is men have at least three times as many orgasms with a partner than women do.

'The rates for casual sex are even more abysmal: only four percent of women have orgasms through casual sex.'

Her advise to women to make sure they are getting satisfaction in the bedroom is to take matters into their own hands – literally.

'The single, most important thing you can do to even up the tally is to give yourself the same clitoral stimulation you use when pleasuring yourself.

'This basically involves thinking of his penis and pelvis as more of a masturbatory tool – something to rub and stimulate your clitoris with and against – than an appendage that thrusts (ineffectively, if pleasantly) in and out of your vagina.

'Sounds selfish? Sorry to be blunt but who cares? He won't – he'll end up climaxing one way or another, believe me! And for once in your life, you might too.



Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4906240/One-five-women-climax-sexual-intercourse.html#ixzz4tNdOaZGl







Porn addiction article By ABIGAIL MILLER FOR DAILYMAIL.COM on 04.08.2017

Boys who start watching pornography at a young age are more likely to grow into misogynistic men who want power over women, a new study claims.
Researchers at at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln found a clear link between the age at which a boy is first exposed to porn and his likelihood to display sexist attitudes later in life.
However, they also found that men who are exposed later in life are more likely to be sexually promiscuous.
'The goal of our study was to examine how age of first exposure to pornography, and the nature of said first exposure, predicts conformity to two masculine norms,' explained Alyssa Bischmann, a doctoral student at the university who presented the research.
The two norms are sexually promiscuous behavior - or the likelihood of being a playboy - and the desire for power over women, she explained.

The younger a boy starts watching pornography the more likely it is that he will have a misogynistic view of women, a new study claims (stock image)
Bischmann and her colleagues surveyed 330 undergraduate men, age 17 to 54 years old, at a large Midwestern university. Participants were 85 percent white and primarily heterosexual (93 percent).
Each man was asked about his first exposure to pornography - specifically, what age they were when it happened and whether it was intentional, accidental or forced.
Participants were then asked to respond to a series of 46 questions designed to measure the two masculine norms.
Among the group, the average age of first exposure was 13.37 years old. with the youngest exposure as early as five and the latest older than 26.


Scientists studied 20,000 men, analyzing how strongly they conformed to 11 typical ideas of masculinity.

They found that men who wanted power over women and had a 'playboy attitude', were significantly more depressed than others.

Those men were also less likely to seek mental health treatment.

The American Psychological Association says the findings should act as a warning to dispel the 'snowflake' reputation afforded men's mental health treatment.

Each study focused on the relationship between mental health and 11 norms generally considered to reflect society's expectations of traditional masculinity.

These were:

desire to win
need for emotional control
risk-taking
violence
dominance
playboy (sexual promiscuity)
primacy of work (importance placed on one's job)
power over women
disdain for homosexuality
pursuit of status
After recording each man's social attitudes, they looked at their mental health, and whether they have sought treatment.

The biggest drivers for poor mental health were: a playboy attitude, insistence on being self-reliant, and wanting power over women.

The one factor that did not detrimentally affect mental health was 'primacy of work' - prioritizing one's job.

Most of the men surveyed said their first time viewing porn was accidental at 43.5 percent.
Fewer men said their first exposure was intentional, at 33.4 percent, and 17.2 percent said it was forced upon them. Six percent did not indicate the nature of the exposure.
Researchers then found a significant association between age of first exposure and adherence to the two masculine norms, with different associations for each.
'We found that the younger a man was when he first viewed pornography, the more likely he was to want power over women,' Bischmann said.
'The older a man was when he first viewed pornography, the more likely he would want to engage in playboy behavior.'
This finding was surprising, according to co-author Chrissy Richardson, MA, also from the University of Nebraska, Lincoln, because the researchers had expected both norms to be higher with a lower first age of exposure.
'The most interesting finding from this study was that older age at first exposure predicted greater adherence to the playboy masculine norms,' Richardson explained.
'That finding has sparked many more questions and potential research ideas because it was so unexpected based on what we know about gender role socialization and media exposure.'
Bischmann said more research needs to be done, and explained that she suspects that the findings may be related to unexamined variables.
For example, a participant's level of religion, sexual performance anxiety, negative sexual experiences or whether their first exposure experience was positive or negative could play a more significant role than age.
It also did not matter how the participants were exposed - the researchers found no significant association between the nature of the exposure and attitudes.
'We were surprised that the type of exposure did not affect whether someone wanted power over women or to engage in playboy behaviors. We had expected that intentional, accidental or forced experiences would have differing outcomes,' said Bischmann.
The findings, which were presented at the 125th Annual Convention of the American Psychological Association provide confirmed existing evidence that pornography viewing has a real impact on heterosexual men, especially with regard to their views about sex roles, according to Richardson.
Knowing more about the relationship between men's pornography use and beliefs about women might assist sexual assault prevention efforts, especially among young boys who may have been exposed to pornography at an early age.
This information could also inform the treatment of various emotional and social issues experienced by young heterosexual men who view pornography, she said.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4757558/Young-boys-watch-porn-likely-sexist.html#ixzz4oo2ph7dD
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From daily mail online 04.08.2016



Your Vagina Is Ageing: A Timeline Of Changes Down There, From Your 30s To Your 60s

Woman &home.com by Kelly Allen on Friday, 17 June 2017

It's not just your face that can give your age away, your vagina is getting older too. While you might pore over the lines and wrinkles on your forehead in the mirror every morning, it's less likely you are looking 'down there'. However, just like the rest of your body, it's going through the ageing process. How does a normal vagina age?

Every woman and every vagina is different, and it's completely understandable to wonder, 'is my vagina normal?'. But a healthy vagina will continue to change as we go through life - this is totally normal. Key life transitions such as pregnancy and menopause will have an effect on your genitals, just as they do on the rest of your body. Read on to discover how a normal vagina changes with age...

In your 30s

If you are on the pill, or have taken it previously, your vagina may become drier in your thirties - experts believe that because the pill stops ovulation, you might not produce as much natural lubrication at this time of the month.
Stephanie S Fabuion, author of Mayo Clinic- The Menopause Solution says, "We think some women may get more vulvar dryness with birth control pills because the pills are blocking male sex hormones called androgens, and the vulva has androgen receptors." However, she does add that this varies from woman to woman.

Pregnancy and childbirth can also have a massive impact on your vagina, as well as your vulva.

The uterus swells to watermelon proportions during pregnancy - some women even get varicose veins on their genitals thanks to this increase in weight.

Hormones produced when you are expecting can also change the colour of your vulva, making it darker.

Thankfully, the vagina is an extremely resilient part of your body and, thanks to its elasticity and blood supply, a healthy vagina tends to return to normal within six weeks of childbirth.

However, doctors recommend performing pelvic floor exercises to help things since the force applied to our pelvic muscles during labour can cause damage. Doing regular Kegels when expecting will help to prevent bladder leakage and can help make sex feel more like before.


In your 40s

Years of defuzzing may start to take their toll now - you might notice skin or pigment changes as a result of waxing or shaving down there. Just like the hair on your head, your pubic hair will also start to thin in your forties. This is thought to be down to declining oestrogen.
Aside from pregnancy-related changes, a healthy vagina will remain largely unchanged until you reach your forties. However, during this decade, your hormone levels begin to decline as perimenopause beckons. At this point, you may start to notice reductions in elasticity, thinning vaginal walls and the beginnings of vaginal dryness, which can result in itching, burning and redness.


In your 50s

Most women go through the menopause between the ages of 50 and 52 - this will have an enormous impact on a normal vagina.

Depleted oestrogen levels result in thinner, less elastic and drier vulvular tissue due to loss of fat and collagen. This can cause irritation during sex - compared by some people to using sandpaper or feeling like you need to go to the toilet.

As hormone levels drop, your body stops making certain bacteria - this will changes the pH level of a normal vagina, making it more acidic. In the absence of this good bacteria, you will be more prone to infections like urinary tract infections and bacterial vaginosis, as well as STIs.



In your 60s and beyond

Whilst other symptoms of the menopause will gradually tail off, changes to your vagina will continue on into your 60s. By the age of 60, nearly 60 per cent of women experience problems with vaginal dryness.

This can cause problems for your sex life. Faubion explains: "When sex hurts for women after menopause, there's this involuntary reaction. You anticipate having painful sex, and then your pelvic floor muscles spasm to protect you. Your brain is saying, 'This is going to hurt'."

What can you do to help your vagina as it ages?

If you have concerns about your vagina or feel physically uncomfortable, it's important to seek medical attention, whatever your age. However, remember that a healthy vagina will still undergo changes. Try these self-help tips to keep yours feeling fresh...
1. Doing Kegels can help to keep symptoms at bay. Contract your pelvic floor muscles (the ones you squeeze to stop the flow of urine when you go to the toilet) for ten seconds, relax, and repeat 20 times, three times a day.

2. Ditch your office chair - instead, sit on a Swiss ball for 15 minutes a day. This forces
the muscles of your pelvic floor to contract - and you won't need to do a single
squeeze.

3. If your problems revolve around dryness during sex then a lubricant can make things easier - just remember not to use oil-based lubricants with condoms.


Read more at http://www.womanandhome.com/diet-and-health/539881/your-vagina-is-ageing-a-timeline-of-changes-down-there




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